Break up at Christmas

Cant stop thinking about different ways to get back with my boyfriend and how I can change to make him like me again. I start thinking scenarios that might happen and how I would react and prepare for it over and over in my head. I also think of unhealthy attention seeking scenarios that I could do to hear from him again. Why do I fantasize so much about something that will probably never be? He was perfect for me and I can't stop thinking 'what ifs'.

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I would say that to change yourself to make someone like you is a dangerous thing - eventually you will resent the fact that you are compromising yourself and your true personality.  I know it hurts now but in my experience it will hurt more if you are not true to yourself.  I hope it gets better for you in 2016.