Don't know how to find love.

After a abusive relationship it's been 5 years and I haven't got out to find anyone I've lost touch with everything now I don't know what to do I'm 26 m and clueless about women in fact I'm scared and nervous to meet anyone.

I don't know where I can go or what to say and when I did try I looked like a fool I'm trying to loose weight because I don't think women like big guys I weigh 195 my ex told me I was fat and worthless and wouldnt find anyone who loved me I weighed around 250 then.

So when I see someone I'm attracted to I just walk off and don't bother even trying I just think she wouldn't be with me or even laugh at me. I would love to be able to talk to women like most guys but I just don't know what I'm doing.

I would love some advice because I don't talk about this to anyone cause I'm embarrassed about it. I don't feel like a man I know that sounds stupid but I just don't.

Can someone give me advice.

Can a big guy like me get a woman?

Where can I go to meet people?

What can I say to women?

I'm not looking for a quick hookup I'm looking for a great relationship. I think I have a great personality I'm funny loyal talented and great with children. So I think I have something to offer to someone special I just need a little help into figuring out how and what to do. 

I'm sorry if I come off as stupid ignorant or pathetic.

Thanks for reading my post I hope you have a fantastic life.


User Comments

hey I don't think this is ignorant or pathetic, a bigger guy can totally get women and be attractive. Do you go to any clubs or events where you could meet women? A single friend of mine used to go to salsa dancing, he said it was great because you could meet people there and do a bit of exercise, maybe something like that would help? 

Just be yourself, if you are then you will find someone who appreciates you for you and that is a great thing. Best of luck!