Ex Girlfriend In New Relationship

So around 2 months ago I split up with my girlfriend of 3 years. We had just come back from the holiday of a lifetime in California/Vegas, it was magical. However, there was an incident in Vegas where we went out to a club, met some friends and she got too drunk. She ended up passing out in the nightclub and paramedics called in to rush her to hospital. I was traumatised by it all. Unfortunately, there were other incidents in our relationship where she couldn't handle her drink, so took it out on me. I dealt with these incidents in different ways from running after her to giving her the cold shoulder. She obviously never meant to keep doing this, but it kept happening.

Anyway, when we got back home and both had gone back to work I said;

(A= me B= Ex Girlfriend

A: I think we should go on a break

B: What?! We're about to buy a house and you want to go on a break? No I think we should go our seperate ways.

A: Right ok if that's what you want

Next day she calls me..

B: What's going on? Is it really over?

A: I don't know, I think I've fallen out of love with you at the moment. Things have got to me and I need to clear my head.

We then didn't speak for 2 weeks.

I saw some friends and cleared my head for those 2 weeks, then got in touch with my feelings to talk to her. When I did my world fell apart.. She had slept with 2 people in the space of 2 weeks and is now in a relationship. I told her I was so sorry in how I acted after the holiday and begged her back, but she said she couldn't forgive me. I've felt like saying I can't forgive you for going out of control when drinking. It ruined our relationship.

Now I'm left broken hearted, depressed and lonely. She seems like everything is ok and with Christmas coming up it's only going to be worse for me.

Update: We met the other night to have a catch up, she wants to be friends and I've had to come to accept that. Things were light hearted and fun to start but then things got emotional over the break up. It ended up with us crying into each others arms. She said she still had feelings for me and still loves me. She didn't know if she was going to stop loving me.

So where do I go from here? Give her space and let her just get on? If she wants to work things out she has to come back to me as I've made all the mistakes in begging etc..

Any help would be much appreciated.

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