Just Need An Ear To Listen

I'm reaching out because I've come to a point in my life that if I don't change I probably won't get anywhere good and I know I have so much skill and talent but I've been wasting myself with people who have kept me down and I've done wrong too. I just left a 6 year relationship where there was a lot of good and bad but the bad including cheating, violence ., and constantly insulting eachother . I left with my daughter because we were living far away from my home town and I had no help or support because he moved out of our home at the time . I spent my holidays with family in my hometown and was planning on returning when things worked out so he could be a dad to his daughter . After a few weeks we were getting along and he was planning to move here instead and start our lives again. Then I found out he had been seeing someone for quite some time . So my feelings changed and it seems now as much as I want him in her life I can't go back out there as I was so unhappy there , he didn't help with parenting and used work as an excuse . I was basically a single parent out there anyway. Now I know I want to run a business some type of humanitarian business out here but I feel like I'm at a standstill and I can't make a move because my daughter takes up my time and my confidence is gone due to all his insults and hurtful words. A friend of his has been connecting with me and told me more things that my ex was lying about, including how he tried to hook up with someone when I was pregnant and working . I really want the best life for my daughter but the courts say I can't file anything till I establish myself out here and right now I feel like I have nothing , I'm living with my parents and being a mom. Can anyone give me some advice about how to proceed ? I feel blinded by my emotion

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Trust me, you have done the right thing removing yourself from this relationship. I have found when I have no idea what to do but I know what I want, the best thing to do is make a plan. Sounds really simple but if you have a plan with small goals, you can make progress and each positive step you take can be something to be proud of.

Is there some volunteering work you can fit in around everything else in the humanitarian line? It might be an opening into learning skills/contacts that can help you when you are thinking of your own business to run.

Stay strong because you have absolutely done the right thing and I wish you and your daughter all the best for the future x